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The Latest Online http://thelatestonline.com We don't make this stuff up - we just share it. Mon, 19 Feb 2018 15:56:45 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://thelatestonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/profile-image-cropped-150x150.jpg The Latest Online http://thelatestonline.com 32 32 The moving reason these Japanese-American basketball leagues have thousands of players. http://thelatestonline.com/the-moving-reason-these-japanese-american-basketball-leagues-have-thousands-of-players/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 15:53:42 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44419

The cheers grew wilder and more euphoric as Bailey Kurahashi did the seemingly impossible.

Another three-pointer. And another. And another.

She kept launching the basketball through the air, and it kept swishing down through the net. Rapturous fans in the bleachers threw their hands in the air.

“They were pretty hyped,” Kurahashi says. “I was feeding off everyone’s energy.”

Kurahashi (center) playing for the La Verne Leopards. Photo courtesy of Bailey Kurahashi.

All in all, on the afternoon of Jan. 24, Kurahashi nailed 11 three-pointers for the La Verne Leopards women’s team at the University of La Verne, near Los Angeles. Kurahashi set a new school record that day for three-pointers made in a single game. And with her scorching-hot hand, she left onlookers astonished.

But her performance wasn’t entirely surprising.

Like thousands in the L.A. metro area, Kurahashi had honed her skills for years in Japanese-American basketball leagues.

She was young when she got started — 4, to be exact. And it was in those early years that she got some of her most important training.

“The league is where I started my basic foundation,” she says. “Ball handling, my footwork, jump stop, pivots, my shooting form. The super basic things.”

It’s a form of training that’s led many league players to college basketball teams. Japanese-American leagues even helped launch Natalie Nakase, a former UCLA player who later served as an assistant coach for the NBA’s Los Angeles Clippers.

The JA leagues, as insiders call them, are impressive for their sheer size: One estimate is that some 14,000 Japanese-Americans currently play in Southern California leagues. It’s common knowledge that everyone in the local Japanese-American community has some connection to JA leagues — either they’ve played or they have a friend or family member who’s played.

That’s true for Kurahashi, whose mom, dad, brother, aunt, cousin, and friends all play (or played) in JA leagues.

Yet for many, JA leagues are more than just an opportunity to play sports.

In fact, the basketball leagues have become a kind of cultural glue holding the local Japanese-American community together.

“Good basketball emphasizes team play,” says Chris Komai, a former sports editor for Rafu Shimpo, a Japanese-English newspaper in Los Angeles. “It’s the team over the individual. That is totally a Japanese cultural value,” he says.

But Komai says it’s served an even deeper function. Basketball has helped preserve Japanese culture in America.

Komai’s (front row, second from the left) league championship team. Courtesy of Chris Komai.

“My contemporaries wanted their kids to interact with Japanese-American kids, and this was one of the last opportunities to do that,” Komai says.

That’s been the case for Kurahashi. She says that by playing in JA leagues, she’s gotten to meet many other Japanese-Americans.

“You meet people you get to be friends with forever,” she says.

But basketball hasn’t always served this role for Japanese-Americans.

This tradition is a reverberation from one of America’s bleakest moments: the imprisonment of more than 100,000 Japanese-American adults and children in response to the bombing of Pearl Harbor.

When Japanese-Americans were denied their civil liberties and forced to live behind barbed-wire fences, sports helped bring the community together.

Japanese-Americans play volleyball in an internment camp in California. Photo by Ansel Adams/Library of Congress Prints and Photographs Division/Wikimedia Commons.

Kids and adults played Western sports like baseball, football, and basketball and also Japanese martial arts like judo. These sports were at once an emotional escape from imprisonment and a way to bond.

After the war ended and the camps were closed, that legacy continued, and Japanese-Americans began building the local sports leagues that continue today.

In basketball, these included clubs like the South Bay Friends of Richard, the Nisei Athletic Union, and — crucial for women athletes like Bailey Kurahashi — the Japanese American Optimist Club.

This club, also known as the JAO, has grown into the largest basketball league for Japanese-American youth in the Los Angeles area. More than a thousand girls currently play in JAO-organized games, according to Leland Lau, the organization’s commissioner.

Girls as young as kindergartners can play in JAO games. Teams are grouped by age, and the leagues run year-round — all of which provides girls like Kurahashi years to practice the sport.

And with so many ages playing ball, the sport has become a regular dinner-table conversation in Kurahashi’s house.

Kurahashi (bottom right) with her family. Photo courtesy of Bailey Kurahashi.

“That’s all we really talk about,” she says.

It’s the experience of so many Japanese-Americans: Basketball isn’t just a game but a cultural tradition that honors a shared history of pain and, ultimately, triumph over persecution.

For decades, Japanese-Americans were excluded from mainstream U.S. life — including from sports. And so they banded together. They formed their own leagues. They played ball.

Yet through the years, as the bigotry began to wane and Japanese-Americans gained more acceptance, the old tradition persisted. It didn’t dissolve into the American melting pot because it helps Japanese-Americans feel connected to each other as well as to their heritage.

For Kurahashi, thinking back on her time in the JA leagues and all the friends she made, that’s pretty powerful.

“It’s a sense of togetherness. It makes you comfortable,” she says. “It’s a place where we’re all the same, it’s a place where we can all connect.”

Read more: http://www.upworthy.com/the-moving-reason-these-japanese-american-basketball-leagues-have-thousands-of-players

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It’s A Scary (Digital) World Out There, Get A VPN http://thelatestonline.com/its-a-scary-digital-world-out-there-get-a-vpn/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 14:59:27 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44416

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Michelle Obama Made A VDay Playlist For Barack, And It’s Perfect http://thelatestonline.com/michelle-obama-made-a-vday-playlist-for-barack-and-its-perfect/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 13:33:07 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44413

Barack and Michelle Obama always come up with the sweetest ways to celebrate major milestones in their relationship ― and this Valentine’s Day is no exception. 

On Tuesday, Michelle tweeted out her gift to her husband of 25 years, and it’s something we can all enjoy. 

“Happy #ValentinesDay to my one and only, @BarackObama. To celebrate the occasion, I’m dedicating a little Valentine’s Day playlist to you!” Michelle wrote. She attached the Spotify playlist, aptly titled “Forever Mine: Michelle to Barack.”

The playlist has 44 songs, most likely a reference to Obama being the 44th president of the United States. It’s filled with classic love songs like Etta James’ “At Last” and Diana Ross’ “Endless Love.”

It also features contemporary favorites from Beyoncé, John Legend, Alicia Keys, Rihanna, Bruno Mars and Janelle Monáe. 

And just look at this sweet playlist cover! 

Michelle Obama/Spotify
So sweet. 

The former president sent a Valentine’s Day message to Michelle on his social media accounts, and it’s equally as cute. 

“Happy Valentine’s Day, @MichelleObama,” he wrote. “You make every day and every place better.” 

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Obama posted a similarly adorable message to commemorate Michelle’s birthday on Jan. 17. 

“You’re not only my wife and the mother of my children, you’re my best friend. I love your strength, your grace, and your determination. And I love you more each day,” he said. 

A post shared by Barack Obama (@barackobama) on

Talk about a “swagalicious” husband.

Take a look back on some of the couple’s sweetest moments together below: 

  • Amanda Lucidon/Official White House Photo
    The first lady snuggles against the president during a video taping for the 2015 World Expo in the Diplomatic Reception Room of the White House.

  • Pete Souza/Official White House Photo
    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama ride in the inaugural parade in Washington, D.C. on Jan. 21, 2013.

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    Michelle Obama and President Barack Obama speak during a rally at Alliant Energy Amphitheater in Dubuque, Iowa on Aug. 15, 2012.

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    President Barack Obama embraces first lady Michelle Obama as they wait to speak at a rally on the campus of Ohio State University in Columbus, Ohio on Oct. 17, 2010.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama pose for photos at the Instagram #GimmeFive photo booth in the East Room of the White House during the annual Easter Egg Roll on April 6, 2015.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama are shown kissing on the kiss cam screen during a timeout in the Olympic basketball exhibition game between the U.S. and Brazil national men’s teams in Washington on July 16, 2012.

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    President Barack Obama is kissed by first lady Michelle Obama during an inauguration reception at the National Building Museum on Jan. 20, 2013 in Washington, DC.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama attend the ‘Christmas in Washington’ taping at the National Building Museum in Washington, D.C. on Dec. 13, 2009.

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    First lady Michelle Obama wipes something from President Obama’s forehead during a dinner at the Schloss Charlottenburg Palace in Berlin, Germany on June 19, 2013.

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    The Obamas in Kenya in 1992. 

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama imitate monsters as they read Where The Wild Things Are during the White House Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House on March 28, 2016 in Washington, D.C.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama watch the fireworks over the National Mall from the roof of the White House on July 4, 2010.

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    President Barack Obama hugs first lady Michelle Obama in the Red Room while senior advisor Valerie Jarrett smiles at the White House on March 20, 2009.

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    President Barack Obama bows to first lady Michelle Obama at the Inaugural Ball in Washington on Jan. 21, 2013.

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    Then-Sen. Barack Obama and his wife Michelle Obama backstage before going out to face their supporters at a primary night rally in the gymnasium at the Nashua South High School on Jan. 8, 2008 in Nashua, New Hampshire.

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    President Barack Obama watches as first lady Michelle Obama putts during a round of mini golf at Pirate’s Island Golf on Aug. 14, 2010 in Panama City Beach, Florida.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama’s hands rest on the railing of a boat during their tour of St. Andrews Bay in Panama City Beach, Florida on Aug. 15, 2010.

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    President Barack Obama dances with his wife and first lady Michelle Obama during the Western Inaugural Ball on Jan. 20, 2009 in Washington, DC.

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    Barack Obama gives his wife Michelle a playful kiss as they tour the Iowa State Fair on Aug. 16, 2007 in Des Moines, Iowa.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama ride on a golf cart at an inaugural ball on Jan. 20, 2009.

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    President Barack Obama hugs first lady Michelle Obama at a campaign rally in Des Moines, Iowa.

  • Pete Souza/Official White House Photo
    “I was moving around trying to capture different scenes away from the stage during event to commemorate the 50th Anniversary of Bloody Sunday and the Selma to Montgomery civil rights marches. When I glanced back towards the stage, I noticed the President and first lady holding hands as they listened to the remarks of Rep. John Lewis. I managed to squeeze off a couple of frames before they began to applaud, and the moment was gone.” — Pete Souza

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama walk towards Marine One across the South Lawn of the White House.

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    The Obamas on their wedding day in October 1992.

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    President Barack Obama kisses first lady Michelle Obama during her remarks at an Affordable Care Act reception in the East Room of the White House on May 1, 2014.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama celebrate with outgoing social secretary Jeremy Bernard and incoming social secretary Deesha Dyer in the Ground Floor Corridor following the State Dinner at the White House on April 28, 2015.

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    President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama wait in the Map Room of the White House before welcoming President Felipe Calderón of Mexico on May 19, 2010.

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27 Survivors Reveal The Sickest, Most Twisted Thing A Narcissist Did To Manipulate Them http://thelatestonline.com/27-survivors-reveal-the-sickest-most-twisted-thing-a-narcissist-did-to-manipulate-them/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 12:59:29 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44410
Brooke Shaden

We all know that malignant narcissists like to provoke, taunt and destroy people – all with clean hands. But what are some of the sneakiest ways they manipulate and terrorize their victims? I asked over a hundred survivors what the most insidious way a narcissist has abused them and the answers were shocking.

Here are just of the highlights of the sick and twisted things these pathological partners have done:

Lead a double life where he tried to destroy me the people he had affairs with.

“All of his affairs – especially the final one in which he is still with his victim. I had no idea he was living a separate life after grooming and establishing a relationship with the very same young girl who got the job he believed he was entitled to. He told me he would destroy her life and her career. I had no idea the last 6 months with him was what is defined as the discard. It was pure hell on earth as he tried to destroy me to the point of wanting to commit suicide. I found out he was with this specific girl months after I escaped. She is in so much danger and she hasn’t a clue.” — Relle

Would invite me somewhere, only to abandon me and flirt with other people.

“I have a book worth of examples of the betrayal, lies, and manipulating he did. They are all cruel, heartless, damaging. But the worst was when he would beg me to go to a certain place to “visit” and then either leave me there or ignore me, or worse – flirt with whoever was there. This one incident sticks out in my mind – it was so sad, so painful, I can’t explain how badly it hurt and confused me. He brought me to his family’s house and left without telling me. When I asked his sister-in-law where he went she said, “The boys took the girls for a ride to the lake.” They were smoking pot together in a truck at the lake while I sat there waiting for him to return. When I called him, he didn’t answer the phone. I had to wait for him to come back. I was accused of being a jealous nagging bore. This is one of a million examples – and I am in intensive therapy trying to figure out what happened to me.” — Mimi

Used spirituality as a cover for his hypocrisy.

“In the early part of our relationship, he talked all the time about the importance of integrity and his interest in Buddhism. It made me feel like I was getting involved with someone honest and gentle. What I actually had was a full-blown pathological liar who undermine me at every chance he got, with constant belittling, gaslighting, and double standards. I was so convinced I had a great man in the beginning that I stayed for 3 years, looking for that guy to come back. Turned out my guy – someone who claimed to have integrity and said he’d never cheat because he had been cheated on and was ‘so painful’ had been cheating on me with his 20 years younger employee.” — Lisa

Played mind games with listening and hearing.

“He would bait me. I would say something and he would say “What? I didn’t hear you!” so I would talk a little louder. Then he would repeat the same thing. I talked a little louder, then he would put his hands over his ears and say “See, you are always picking on me and bullying me!” He would then walk out and give me the silent treatment.” — Patti

“Mine would say “I can’t hear you, you speak too low, speak a little louder.” Then, when I would repeat what I’d said a little louder, he would yell at me, saying, “You don’t have to yell. Why are you yelling?” — Carmen

“When he’d talk to me he would leave out a word here and there, mouthing the words but no sound coming out. He had me thinking I was losing my hearing.” —Pauline

“Said I mumbled and called it ‘drizzling the cheese.’ Then, when I repeated myself more loudly, he would say I yelled it and became angry.” — Crystal

Subjected me to covert put-downs about my body.

“He’d make jokes and insults about my weight. He’d even take small jabs that were small but you just know he’s insulting you on the sly.” — Sharron

Gave me intermittent praise followed by put-downs.

By repeating a pattern of put-downs followed by a period of how great I am. Screwing with my mind and keeping me unbalanced so that I never know what to expect.” — Angela

Screwed my friends and screwed me over.

“He would screw my friends… and I would not have a way to prove it other than the intense energy and awkwardness between the two. To the point where my friends couldn’t be around me or talk with me.” — Angie

Pathologized my emotions when they were actually valid.

“Being made to feel I was at fault for being unsupportive and jealous when actually my suspicions were correct and I was totally being lied to.” — Sarah

Used what he knew would hurt me as ammo, stonewalling me and threatening divorce during every argument.

“The sneakiest way he manipulated me was with extreme psychological warfare, gaining my trust and then exploiting it. In the beginning, anytime we’d get in an argument, he would quickly just threaten to divorce me, even while I was pregnant. I read so many marriage books that said never to utter those words during an argument. It shocked me how easily he said it. I believed that all couples had problems, so I believed we had to work it out and never take it to that level. I told him he should never use the term “divorce” in a fight. I told him it really bothered me, and I even wrote it on a piece of paper and made him sign it, saying no matter how upset we were, we’d never threaten the other with divorce. He signed it and said how sorry he was, and how much he loved me and could never stand to lose me.

After he found out how deeply it affected and hurt me when he said it, he used it to torture me. It was like his ammo. He’d say it repeatedly in almost every argument, even though he signed that paper. He was lying so much and never there for me, yet made me feel crazy and horrible if I ever brought anything up. Then, we’d argue and he’d say, “You just want to fight don’t you?!” If I cried or got mad, he’d again threaten divorce, then he’d say “I don’t know why you’re getting upset, you’ll never do anything about it anyway!” referring to the pact we made. It was taunting to an extreme level, it made me feel so worthless.

But he never filed for divorce. When I finally had enough and found the strength to file for divorce myself, I ignited a narcissistic rage I never could have possibly imagined. Every single thing that I’d ever shared with him became his twisted warfare against me. Every single person I’d ever had a falling out with became his new best friend. Every person and thing that was near and dear to my heart he tried to take away to destroy me, all while portraying himself as the victim. Every single time I tried to stand up for myself he’d come back 10 times harder to abolish the truth.” —Hope

Gaslighted me and isolated me.

“Gaslighting: he would change the story of what happened a couple days later, in an attempt to look better. He also kept telling me my family were all narcissists, to get me to not trust them, and cut off my support there. And he said our relationship problems were all my fault. I believed him for so long. It was easier because my brain was so foggy, so I depended on his.” — Tamra

“He would casually admit to his misbehaviors – having online accounts, collecting naked pictures, responding to craigslist ads etc. Then, he would either deny it when I asked to talk about it or he would just sit there and stare at me or he would say he never said that and that I was just making things up. He would disappear for days at a time and lose his shit and say I made things up.” — Eddie

Made me believe no one liked me.

“During our break up, he told me that none of our mutual friends liked me and that he constantly had to defend me to them when I wasn’t around. After our break up, our mutual friends were reaching out to me with genuine care and compassion, and explaining to me that it was the other way around, and that they hated the way he acts, and that they no longer associate with him.” — Lindsay

Called the people he was sleeping with “just friends.”

“He introduced me to his “just friends” coworker and insisted we become friends. We helped her leave her marriage and deal with her ex. I became suspicious and begged him not to sleep with her. He told me I was paranoid. Her ex insisted they were having an affair. I told him he was crazy. Of course, it turned out that my now ex-husband sleeping with her. I took pictures at her son’s birthday party. We hung out without my ex. I feel sorry for her now.” — Ginger

“So many. He once left his cell phone on the table set to not turn off with a text from the woman he cheated on me with and discarded me for the first time. But of course, they were still “just friends.” Discarded me again within a month of it for her. Left mail and only that mail repeatedly around that had her son’s name on it who used his address to avoid child support. Always had a quick excuse. Claimed I just was over thinking or creating things in my head that weren’t there when I questioned both these things.” — Desiree

Complimented me and then used those compliments as excuses to justify abuse.

“My ex would compliment me randomly and “thank” me for all that I did as a parent and a wife, only to turn around and use those very same compliments against me. He’d use them as leverage to justify his abusive behavior. Example: If I were to call him out for negative comments or false accusations he made towards me, he’d deny it and spin it around by reminding me that he just told me the other day how much he appreciated me cooking dinner or helping our son with his homework. This would shift the subject to me being the one making false accusations/negative comments about his behavior instead, claiming that I never appreciate how ‘good’ he is to me.” — Ashley

Deprived me of sleep with crazymaking arguments.

“He would create huge arguments out of thin air. Then, he would walk back in the next day as if nothing had happened. I would still be licking my wounds and recovering from no sleep because of all the ruminations as a result.” — Karen

Manipulated me with sex.

“He would manipulate me with sex. After a nasty fight, he would charm me and have sex with me even knowing I did not want to. I just felt forced to do it in order to bring peace to our marriage.” —Cynthia

Got me pregnant to get me to stay.

“He got me pregnant, knowing that would make me stay. I had planned to divorce him.” — Renee

“We had just talked about trying to have another baby and waiting a year to start. The only time in 20 years that he “forgot” the condom was about a week later when he knew I would be fertile. And yes, I became pregnant.” — Bonnie

Guilt-tripped me and made me dependent on her approval.

“My sister was my narcissist. From an early age, she would control me by playing on my love of family. To get me to do what she wanted me to do she would say, “Go ahead, just forget about it, but we aren’t sisters anymore. You love me and you need me, but I’m just fine without you.” I was always extremely fearful that I would need her. She would do things for me to ingratiate herself, making me feel dependent on her. Then she would take it all away. It was a very confusing way to grow up. I watched her go through friends in the same way. She would idolize them, work her way into every detail of their lives, and then she would leave them.” — Jill

Blamed it on the meds.

“When I left him the first time, he said that his awful behavior was because of the Oxycontin he was taking. He told me that his doctor had put him on a new medication and that his behavior had changed and he wanted us to try again. Two weeks after I moved back in with him, he told me that he had seen his doctor who not only put him back on Oxycontin but actually increased the dosage to higher than what he was on before I left. Shortly after, he told me he didn’t love me and only wanted me back to punish me for leaving. It was 7 months of hell including sexual assault and verbal/emotional abuse before I could get out again.” — Shawna

Threatened to commit suicide.

“First of all, he threatened to commit suicide if I didn’t marry him. I was young, naive, afraid, insecure. He manipulated me into marrying him. After that, lying, cheating, living a double all along, from the beginning. For the whole 40 years. Deep within me, I knew something was not normal, but he had me under his control, playing mind games, telling me he loved me and promising how he would always be there to take care of me. How I could not make it without him. Kept me from having friends. Trying to keep me from speaking when we were out in public places. The list goes on and on.” — Carmen

“He held a gun to his head and said that he’d kill himself, make it look like murder to ensure I was to blame if I didn’t shoot myself after. He’d tell his family and our close friends that we had true love, yet behind my back tell them I was crazy suicidal and he was doing the best he could to help me. I have never been suicidal. This all caused my closest friends/family to lose all faith in me and totally secluded me from the outside world. Lastly, he limited me to 1 meal a day, while nursing our newborn.” — Molly

Pathological lying and drip-feeding me the truth.

“Lying about anything and everything, for his own benefit. And he was damn good at it. If I suspected something he would so easily lie right to my face. I could have a blue piece of paper and he would call it orange if it benefited him. His lies would come out as if it was the absolute truth. Never letting me know the whole truth about something, and if I questioned why it sounded odd he’d tell me not to worry or say “what are you even talking about?” Over time, his behavior made me out of tune with my own intuition and common sense I had always had before him. What a roller coaster those two years were.” — Lauren

Told me he would take care of me financially, just to control me.

“Don’t worry. I will take care of you. You can quit your job.” Worst decision I ever made. I let him take financial control under the guise of him “taking care of me.” He controlled and manipulated me through finances.” — Amy

Read more: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/02/27-survivors-reveal-the-sickest-most-twisted-thing-a-narcissist-did-to-manipulate-them/

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Leslie Jones Is The Figure Skating Fashion Critic Everyone Needs http://thelatestonline.com/leslie-jones-is-the-figure-skating-fashion-critic-everyone-needs/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 11:38:27 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44407

Leslie Jones has arrived in Pyeongchang, South Korea, giving her must-read Twitter commentary on the Winter Olympics a more immediate touch.

During the men’s free skating on Saturday, the “Saturday Night Live” comedian unleashed her wit on what the competitors wore.

And it was sublime.

See for yourself.

Keep up the important work, Leslie.

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Offended by Koreans eating dog? I trust youve never had a bacon butty | Chas Newkey-Burden http://thelatestonline.com/offended-by-koreans-eating-dog-i-trust-youve-never-had-a-bacon-butty-chas-newkey-burden/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 11:28:10 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44404 Frightened animals being caged, killed and turned into food wed never dream of such evils in the western world, writes journalist and author Chas Newkey-Burden

Offended by Koreans eating dog? I trust youve never had a bacon butty

Frightened animals being caged, killed and turned into food wed never dream of such evils in the west would we?

Read more: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/15/korea-eating-dog-meat-animals-food-west

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Guy Makes Crazy Furby Organ, Accidentally Opens Gates to Hell http://thelatestonline.com/guy-makes-crazy-furby-organ-accidentally-opens-gates-to-hell/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 10:35:44 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44401

Inspired by Nervous Squirrel’s Furby Gurdy, Sam of Look Mum No Computer turns things up to 11 with his terrifying Furby Organ.

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Adam Rippon Needs to Host SNL Immediately http://thelatestonline.com/adam-rippon-needs-to-host-snl-immediately/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 10:17:26 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44398

On Sunday night following his near-flawlessand rage-inducingly scoredshort program at the figure-skating team event at the Olympics, Adam Rippon gave an iconic interview, replete with its own viral micro-moment.

Asked by NBCs Andrea Joyce if his Olympic experience thus far has been what he expected, he gave a labored, histrionic, and haughty sigh. Then, channeling Miranda Priestly by way of Jack McFarland, he purred a dramatic, Andrea

It was the gayest moment in U.S. sports history.

Were being hyperbolic, sure. But it was unabashed. It was sassy. It was a little flaming, and it came after a badass display of undeniableyet still slightly effeminateathleticism and strength. All that, and it went viral. People loved it! Thats important!

Vanity Fairs Richard Lawson wrote about the meaningfulness of Rippons status as not only Americas first openly gay figure skater at the Olympics, but a folk-hero superstar at thatfor our money, the masterfully landed triple in a sea of fallen quad essays on Rippon that have been written in recent weeks.

Watching Rippon have his triumphant moment on Sunday nightand give a funny, frank interview afterwardI felt the kind of yearning for a celebrity that I havent felt since I was 17, half my life ago, he wrote. How strange to experience that while watching sports, an area of culture Im usually pretty alienated from unless its Olympics time.

Rippon is breaking boundaries not just because hes an out athlete, but because hes a star, one who is doing it on his terms with not an ounce of shame or expressed insecurity. Its so clear to me what the boundary is that he needs to break out. For the love of God and Kristi Yamaguchi, book Adam Rippon as host on Saturday Night Live. The sooner, the better.

Its a bit of a soft tradition for athletes to host Saturday Night Live soon after major sports accomplishments. Since 2000, John Cena, Charles Barkley, Michael Phelps, Eli Manning, Ronda Rousey, LeBron James, Peyton Manning, Tom Brady, Jeff Gordon, Jonny Moseley, and Derek Jeter have all hosted, though freestyle skier Mosely is the only winter sports athlete.

Still, thats 11 different athletes that have hosted. Collectively, they have less charisma than Rippon has in one of his (perfectly groomed) eyebrows.

The Andrea interview could be its own SNL moment, should the sketch show decide to pay loving tribute to Rippons delightfully gregarious demeanor. Hell, why are we tip-toeing around it; he doesnt. Were talking about his gayness. Finally, we can talk about a sports stars intrinsic gayness. We can joke about it. He jokes about it. Lets do it from Studio 8H.

Literally everything he does burns across the internet with the fire of a flame-breathing unicorn. Tweets with Reese Witherspoon? Iconic. Shuts down a hater while citing RuPauls Drag Race? Legendary. Challenges Mike Pence? Hero. Interviewed by The New York Times and uses the opportunity to put ass-truthers on blast? Queen. Cites the desire for a Xanax and a drink while on a televised Olympic interview? Adam Rippon, you are all of us.

Hell, the guy merely sighed and it went viral.

Hes turned all of American into armchair experts in the specific lunacy of figure-skating scoring, owed to the communal fury over the fact that the two skaters who scored above him both fell doing jumps, in comparison to Rippons exquisitely clean programa quirk owed to the fact that more points are earned for attempting botched quad jumps than landing perfect triples.

(Weve vented about it before and well do it again: If you fall doing a quad you should not get more points than the guy who landed a flawless triple! You shouldnt get rewarded just for saying youre gonna do something you cant do. Dang, I guess I messed it up but that was definitely supposed to be a septuple toe loop.)

NBCs ratings have been unexpectedly strong these games, an Olympic feat in its own right in the days of peak TV and borderline nonexistent live viewing. The lions share of that is owed to audiences tuning in for the star power of the athletes, and no American in Pyeongchang is more worthy of his name on a blinding neon marquee than Rippon.

Of course, the reasons why this is tough sell are perhaps just as obvious as why NBC should already be negotiating his booking.

SNLs track record featuring openly gay hosts is as dismal as any entertainment entitys track record is on such things, made even more difficult to gauge without deeper research into when hosts actually came out publicly. Going back just 10 years, Kristen Stewart, Jim Parsons, Miley Cyrus, Jane Lynch, Elton John, Neil Patrick Harris, and Ellen Page all hosted, though some, like Page, before they were publicly out.

Its not that were presuming any sort of anti-gay bias in the late-night institution. Its just that its talent pool does reflect a mainstream swing that tends to deny opportunity and visibility to LGBTQ performers.

That said, the show has become increasingly queer. Kate McKinnon, of course, is gay. Chris Kelly, who was head writer from 2016-2017, was the shows first openly gay scribe to hold that top position. Recent segments have paid homage to the Real Housewives star Erika Jayne and RuPauls Drag Race, while perhaps the shows biggest rising star is actually behind the scenes, up-and-coming writer Julio Torres. In fact, in Torres the show has the perfect pairing of writer to hone material worthy of Rippon that manages to lean into Rippons queerness with being insensitive or offensive.

Theres another roadblock to consider, too. As TVLines Michael Ausiello outlined at the end of 2016, SNL has a measurable bias against booking TV stars as hosts, with, at the time, only 20 percent of guests coming from the small screen. (Of the 25 episodes that aired since that article published, only three have been hosted by TV stars.) That matters because, as much as hes a famous athlete, Rippon might be the biggest star on NBC right now. Would that bias extend to him?

Listen, Rippon hosting will be fun. Theres politics to weigh in on, with his sparring with Pence. (Imagine some sort of homoerotic sketch between the two of them.) Theres a willingness to laugh at himself, too. Its just time weve had a night of TV like this. After all, can there be true equality on television if the gays talents arent squandered on faux-edgy sketch comedy? We deserve the right to that, too.

Read more: https://www.thedailybeast.com/adam-rippon-needs-to-host-snl-immediately

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Suspected Toronto serial killer frequented Gay Village http://thelatestonline.com/suspected-toronto-serial-killer-frequented-gay-village/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:19:21 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44395

(CNN)When Bruce McArthur was charged with five counts of murder for allegedly killing several gay men and burying their remains in potted plants around Toronto, many in the city’s LGBTQ community were in shock.

“They all said that they never would have suspected him,” Ciantar told CNN. “He looks like Santa Claus. He looks harmless. That probably really helped him.”
So far, all of the victims are male, and McArthur had relationships with each of them, some of which were sexual, Toronto Police Service spokeswoman Meaghan Gray said. Police said that two of the victims, Selim Esen and Andrew Kinsman were active on dating apps.
    “He was in the community. To what extent, I don’t know,” said Constable Danielle Bottineau, Toronto Police Service and LGBTQ liaison officer. “But members definitely knew the accused as well as the victims.”
    McArthur is due to make a court appearance on Wednesday. His attorney, Edward Royale, told CNN on Monday he would not be commenting on the case.
    The grisly killings have rattled the LGBTQ community, as well as the immigrant communities that some of the victims belonged to.
    “The accused in this matter preyed on quite a few members of the racialized community, probably knowing full well they weren’t out with their culture, weren’t out to their family and friends,” Bottineau said.

    An inconspicuous suspect

    McArthur presented himself as a friendly face — even working as a mall Santa, the definition of jolly. He worked at a mall in Scarborough, Ontario, over the past few Christmas seasons, according to the Agincourt Mall.
    “He was hired through an event management company who provides various forms of entertainers including Santa to many events throughout the (Greater Toronto Area),” the Agincourt Mall said in a statement. “There were no reported incidents by customers or by store and mall employees during his time at the mall.”
    Nothing about McArthur particularly stood out, at least not to those who knew him from afar.
    He worked as a landscaper in and around Toronto, and Toronto police said investigators have identified 30 properties that belong to clients of his.
    Connie Uetrecht never thought much of McArthur, who often worked on a lawn down the street from her Toronto home.
    “I knew that (my neighbor) had somebody to do some of the yard work, but that’s all,” Uetrecht said Tuesday. “I’ve seen him a few times, but really I never noticed anything unusual.”
    Robert MacEachern, who grew up with McArthur outside of Woodville, Ontario, said he couldn’t recall anything strange about McArthur.
    “He wasn’t a child with any issues,” MacEachern said. “He was just one of the kids at the schoolhouse.”
    Aside from a few parties in Woodville over the past 48 years, where he may have seen McArthur three or four times, MacEachern hasn’t really known the suspect since 1970, he said.
    “I was shocked to hear the news,” MacEachern said.
    “It’s very tragic story, I feel for everybody involved. Just awful,” he added.

    What’s next in the case

    McArthur was first arrested January 18 and charged with the murders of Kinsman, 49, and Esen, 44, who both went missing last year. Two weeks later, he was charged with three more counts of murder for the killings of Majeed Kayhan, 58, Dean Lisowick, 47, and Soroush Mahmudi, 50.
    Investigators have discovered six sets of human remains buried in planters on different properties connected to McArthur; one set of remains has been identified as Kinsman’s. The other remains have yet to be identified, but police said they have sufficient evidence to connect McArthur to the murders of Esen, Kayhan, Lisowick and Mahmudi.
    Authorities said they expect they may discover more remains on some of 30 properties connected to him.
    The excavation of a property in Toronto’s Mallory Crescent neighborhood, down the street from Connie Uetrecht, was completed late Monday evening, according to Gray, the Toronto Police Services spokeswoman. There is still at least one other property in Toronto that investigators are looking to excavate, she said. No time frame was given on when the thawing out process will begin on that site, Gray said.
    “We’re just very methodically working our way through these properties,” Gray said late last week.
    There are still a number of planters that are still being investigated by the Toronto Police Department, Gray said. Toronto Police have at least 15 planters that have been obtained in their investigation from various properties in Toronto and surrounding towns. Gray says they still have many of those 15 planters that need to be processed by investigators.

    Read more: http://www.cnn.com/2018/02/13/us/toronto-serial-killer-suspect-bruce-mcarthur/index.html

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    10 Dogs Cuddling This Valentines Day http://thelatestonline.com/10-dogs-cuddling-this-valentines-day/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:06:22 +0000 http://thelatestonline.com/?p=44392 Valentines Day is all about spreading the love with the one you love! 

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